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The Eightfold Path

November 9, 2016 by Jetsunma Ahkon Lhamo

An excerpt from a teaching called The Eightfold Path by Jetsunma Ahkon Lhamo

The Buddha taught that the end of suffering is possible. That’s very important. Many times in our society, we go to church, make lots of prayers, do what is required in our respective religions, but perhaps we have never been told that there is an end to suffering, and there is something that we can do rather than just wait on the rapture. There is something that we can do to pacify our suffering, purify our karma, get relief, and begin to dispel desire, attachment, and its hold on us.

The Buddha taught that the cessation of suffering is the Eightfold Path. The Buddha teaches that by following the Eightfold Path we will move towards nirvana. If we follow it diligently and accomplish it diligently, we will pacify suffering, and achieve nirvana.

I feel that no matter where you go in Dharma, you must understand the Four Noble Truths and the Eightfold Path. Without understanding these, there is no result. Even if you are doing the highest levels of Vajrayana, you must understand these fundamental teachings. So, what is this magical Eightfold Path?

The Noble Eightfold path is: (click on the links below to learn more)

Sometimes if you look in a book, it may use a slightly different word. It’s just because the original language was translated slightly differently, but this is the right stuff.

The Eightfold Path is basically divided into three sections. The first section is wisdom, the second is ethical conduct, and the third is mental development. All of these must happen at the same time, and so it is essential to understand all of the Eightfold Path, and not simply rely on one angle and think you’ve really got it.

In the wisdom section there is right view and right intention. In the ethical conduct section there is right speech, right action, and right livelihood. In the mental development section there is right effort, right mindfulness, and right concentration. The wisdom section explains how to apply right thinking and gain wisdom. The ethical conduct section shows how to construct an ethical way in which to gain merit and do no harm. The mental development section is the actual meat and bones of the path.

We should never think of the Eightfold Path as a sequential, linear path. It isn’t that first you do right view, and then you go for right intention, and then you go for number three – right speech. It isn’t like that. It must be considered like the petals of a lotus in the sense that it is all one flower, and it opens up together. It should be thought of as interdependent because it gives rise to an interdependent method and it helps one to understand the many different factors of the path in a concise way.

This level of the Buddhist practice does not lead to enlightenment in one life. It takes lifetime after lifetime of consistent practice of the Eightfold Path in order to achieve some realization. So, that’s the slow route. Mahayana is a bit quicker, and Vajrayana is the one method in which you can achieve realization in one lifetime or at the time of death. We want liberation in one lifetime, but in order to do that you must train your mind according to the Eightfold Path. There is no doubt that this is the foundation of the Buddha’s teaching, and by itself will produce tremendous result.

Right Effort

November 7, 2016 by Jetsunma Ahkon Lhamo

An excerpt from a teaching called the Eightfold Path by Jetsunma Ahkon Lhamo

Right effort is the blood of the Eightfold Path. It is the sort of like a precursor, because you have to establish right effort and there has to be effort for the path to work. To engage on the path, you have to be rightfully making that effort to engage on the path.

Now, there is no shortage of effort in our lives here in the US. Contrary to what struggling people might think. In other countries where survival is an issue, one works very hard from dawn to dusk, and probably most days of the year, but for Americans survival is not so difficult and so it looks as though we have a lot of leisure time. In fact we do have a lot of leisure time relative to other unfortunate sentient beings. And that’s why we have the opportunity to practice. But there is no shortage of effort in our lives.

We are actually very hard at work. We have determination. Americans have a lot of ingenuity. You know? We can be a strong people. So, right effort is something that we have to understand. Its not that there is a shortage of effort, but you have to determine what is the right effort?

On this path, nothing will be achieved if we do not contemplate, study and practice right effort. What is behind right effort is our own mental energy. Everything that we experience is from mental energy. Everything that we interpret is about our mental energy. The lens of our mind, the habitual tendency of our mind controls how we experience. For those of us who are habituated to living in a certain way, we have to take very specific steps and efforts. A great example of this are the steps that recovering alcoholics must take, because the seduction of alcohol is so all-pervasive and the habit so strong and reinforced by the drug alcohol itself. People use alcohol in a self-medicating way. As far as I’m concerned, getting sloppy drunk is very unattractive, and not that much fun, and the next day it’s not very fun either. So I don’t think that’s what draws people. I tend to think that they are self-medicating. That they are suffering in some way, and they think, “This will do it.” Sometimes we are depressed, and we self-medicate. I’ve known people that have mania who self-medicate. And they use whatever they can get their hands on. Some people just have pain in their hearts, and are too thin skinned for the world. I’ve known alcoholics like that who underneath it were very vulnerable, very pure, delicate people who just can’t take it. And so they drink. They don’t know that there’s another answer.

It takes a lot of effort to drink that much. It takes a lot of effort to self medicate. It takes a lot of effort to do the things we do to cope, get to work, get home, take out the garbage, send the kids to college. All this stuff is so effortful, and we know exactly how to do it, because society trains us to do it.

Right effort invites us to train differently. We are always exerting effort. Right effort brings us fulfillment, peace of mind, and certain contentment. Unwholesome effort leads to mental confusion. If you want to be mentally confused, just keep right on with the ordinary efforts without any guidance and you will keep spinning around in samsara like a bee in a bottle.

Let’s say a person leaves the path. For whatever reason they find dissatisfaction with the path. Heads up on that. That tells you something right there. If you leave the path, if you find dissatisfaction with the path, it is because you haven’t done it right. The path is the path. It leads to liberation if you work it right. If you don’t’, you just look stupid because you haven’t done it right. And so most people that leave haven’t done it right.

Having done some right effort in order to travel on the path and do some practice, they maybe gained some benefit, but karma ripened. They didn’t quite get it right. Didn’t keep themselves inspired on the path. Didn’t really keep Vajra confidence when they were moving forward on the path. And now all that attention and energy that they used to put into meditation and the path, they now put into gossip, wrong-headed and harmful activities such as speaking ill of others, or trying to destroy others, or trying to destroy another person’s path or trying to destroy an organization or something like that. The person who is doing it feels in their mind right. They feel self-righteous. Of course you know that there is no room for self-righteousness on the path because there is no self, and the attachment to righteousness is something that we should be working on right now. Being right. Being in charge. Being on top. All that stuff is just attachment and desire, and that’s something that we should be working on right away.

Lets say that this person is doing all of these negative things, and they feel righteous. They feel they have the right to do this. If they didn’t get anywhere on the path, they make the path wrong. And they say, “Well, the path is just nothing. It doesn’t help, and I’m not happy in it, and therefore its wrong.” Once they make that decision they go off and try to seek happiness in another way. At first, if they have a lot of anger, maybe vengeance, maybe they just let their anger rip? After trying to work with it for many years, they just let it rip. Letting the monster out of the closet that was always in there, and probably was the problem in the first place. So, this person is now engaged in unwholesome activity and what will happen to this person? If a person like that wants to do some harm, if they get a punch in, they feel a kind of satisfaction. Does anybody know what that kind of satisfaction feels like? It’s an evil, dark, stinky, smelly kind of satisfaction. Not wholesome. Not helpful. Not going to make the world a better place. Nothing but harm doing. And when that person has that feeling of unwholesome, victorious satisfaction, their mind then becomes more aroused and inflamed, like a giant mental zit – inflamed, pussy, and nasty. That’s how the person’s mind becomes.

If a person has manic-depressive disorder, in the state of mania, it is very hard to be kind. It is very hard to have good judgment and it is very hard not to be raging and angry in mania. It is very hard. You don’t have any kindness when you are manic. You are just too enraged.

Psychiatrists will tell you that if you are a manic person, a bipolar person you tend to go up and down. What happens if you are not treated is that your mind, which is like a muscle exercising, learns how to go up and down, up and down, up and down. It habituates to being all over the place. No steadiness there. No stability. It’s up and down, up and down. Some people with bipolar disorder can cycle through moods in a day. Other people go through seasonal cycles – manic in the summer and then lower in the winter.

What I’ve learned is that if manic-depressive disorder, because there is so much rage in it, goes untreated, then over the years it tends to make the mind toxic, and it leads to dementia. It is not because there is a direct correlation, and it won’t be a strict dementia like old age dementia that tends to have certain parameters, but it leads to a kind of discombobulation. What happens is that the mind is so filled with stress hormones, so filled up with the inflammation of rage and anger, and in mania tends to go round and round and round and round with no solution. If untreated, then as a person ages, the mind becomes so toxic that even if a person goes for treatment in their older age, the first thing that has to be done, is treat them for this brain toxicity, before you can even treat them for the bipolar disorder, which is the disorder. A lot of times you have to backtrack by using anti-psychotics. You have to backtrack and detoxify the mind until you can get to where you can treat it. And that’s the main reason why when I see a person who I recognize as having the symptoms of bipolar disorder, I beg them to go get treatment because I see what happens to people who are untreated for such a long time and what happens to their mind. At that point the mind becomes unreachable. When the mind is toxic, it is unreachable. Anger is the king. Inflammation is the queen, and running around is the baby.

It matters so much how you structure your inner mental life. Many people think that as long as their behavior is good, it doesn’t matter what’s going on in their mind. For instance, you can think about kicking puppies in your mind but on the outside you are really kind to puppies, and think that it’s okay. It’s a silly example, but the actual truth is that it’s not okay. The actual truth is that one will bring the other about. Eventually, if the mind stays in that condition without changing, then the outer behavior will change. And so it is imperative that we make the correct effort, the right effort, and that is to study, contemplate, and understand, to begin to look at the nature of your perception and your mind, and to actually put in the time and the effort to study.

You practice Right Effort by preventing unarisen unwholesome states from arising, abandoning unwholesome states that have already arisen, arousing wholesome states that have not yet arisen, and maintaining and perfecting wholesome states that have already arisen.

1. Prevent the arising of unarisen unwholesome states So, through good contemplation and right effort, you can prevent the arising of new habits by simply not engaging in them. You make an effort not to engage with an unfortunate habit.

2. Abandon unwholesome states that have already arisen With right effort examine your mind, examine your life, examine your habitual tendencies and see what needs changing. To begin to abandon unwholesome states that have already arisen can happen through antidoting behavior. For instance, if you are extremely selfish, you have to practice little by little learning to give. Practice little by little even if it’s just a flower or a dollar or a gift or even something of your own that you treasure very much. Right effort would be learning to give that joyfully. So abandon already unwholesome habits.

3. Arouse wholesome states that have not yet arisen What would that look like? It would be practicing generosity. If you are that person who is selfish, then practice generosity in everyway that you can. If you are not nurturing and kind and you really admire people like that and want to be that way, then you can practice five minutes at a time. You put the right effort into stepping outside of yourself and looking at the other being to see what they need, what would make them happy. To think of others before yourself. It’s a practice that’s very simple but no one does it. To put others in front of you and say, “How can I support this person?” Rather than always being the one whose getting support and needing support, and wanting support. That’s not really a wholesome habit. That’s a dependency habit. If you were to practice and realized that you’re like that, there’s no shame in realizing that. You have to realize that you’re like that. But then little by little you begin to act differently. And at first its baby steps. And then eventually those baby steps become habits. And eventually those habits become recognition and awakening. And even on the simplest level, lead to a better life.

4. Maintain and perfect wholesome states already arisen You examine them and you find that you have certain good qualities. Like lets say, you feel yourself to be very interested in the Dharma, interested in a real way. It excites you. You really like the thought of it. You like the practices, you like the atmosphere, you like everything about it. That’s a wholesome condition because if you’re going to have an attachment, then have an attachment to Dharma because if you’re practicing it right, it will take care of itself. Lets say that you have that habit and you really like Dharma, and you decide you’re going to use that to help others to like it. Lets say, you want to become a chopon (person who handles the spiritual substances in puja) or an umdze (practice or chant leader). You become really practiced at that. That would be taking a natural wholesome habit and bringing it up to the next level.

Lets say that you basically like animals. You like dogs. That’s a good habit, as long as you’re not too attached to them and you’re not like an animal hoarder or something. But say you like dogs. What would you do about that? Your next step would be, “How can I help them?” How can I alleviate their suffering?” Same thing with the birds. You know, I love that birds are so beautiful. We love them but do we take the next step, which is to make their lives less horrible and more wonderful? That’s the kind of habitual tendency that you constantly invite yourself to take and go over and make firm in your mind. It’s so important to understand that on the pat. That’s really the basis of everything. To be on the path and not make any effort, one is not on the path. One is simply along for the ride. And it won’t last.

A person who is on the path and makes no effort to correct their mind habits and is still mean and hateful and angry, and makes no effort to correct that, is not practicing the Buddhadharma, even if they are wearing the robes, even if they have got the beads. No matter what, they are not practicing the Buddhadharma, because the Buddhadharma is about making one’s mind wholesome.

Right Concentration

November 5, 2016 by Jetsunma Ahkon Lhamo

An excerpt from a teaching called the Eightfold Path by Jetsunma Ahkon Lhamo

The eighth principal on the path is right concentration. Right, concentration occurs in all of us. Have you ever gone without a meal? You get really hungry, and suddenly you visualize cake. It’s stronger than any deity visualization you’ve ever had. I’ve always told people that if you say you can’t visualize, the best thing to do is go on a fast. You will visualize night and day! You’ll not be happy about it, but you’ll see hotdogs. You’ll see chicken, and it will be right there! So, I don’t buy that you can’t visualize. That kind of concentration is very strong. If you’re really hungry, and you’re about to sit down to a big meal, don’t let anybody get between you and that meal because there’s going to be trouble. That kind of concentration is very powerful. That is our natural capacity. We use it all the time. The problem is we use it wrongfully. We don’t use it in a way that is beneficial at all. If your concentration is going into visualizing food, or new cars or sexy women or men, then you are wasting and using wrongfully a talent, a capacity that is uniquely human. Even when a dog is starving and it runs for its food, its not concentrating in the way that we concentrate. For a dog, it is more of a knee jerk reaction. It knows to go to the food. We do use concentration and visualization all the time. If we didn’t, we wouldn’t be able to think or act.

The point of right concentration is to begin to dismantle the reaction, the heavy reactionism, the construct of our own perception, and to create a mind that is firm and strong and not out of control. Our minds get out of control when we habitually are very emotional. So we learn to do that. And one of the wonderful techniques that’s given is to concentrate. Its called single-pointed concentration or one-pointed concentration.

One of the first techniques that you learn in Buddhism for instance, is to take say an image of the Buddha and to concentrate on that, and let everything else go. Let your perception go completely. You sit there in meditation and you just watch the image, are filled with the image and take note of the image. You look at the finest parts of the image, and when the “I left the toaster on or I left the iron on” thoughts start to come, then you simply use a technique of just dismissing them and going back to the concentration. For people that really have trouble dismissing the thoughts, you can even use a visualization of cutting them with scissors and throwing them away. But you always return to your single-pointed concentration. It’s extremely relaxing. Extremely healing. I don’t know why it isn’t done more.

Another thing that you can do is focus on a candle. Just simply see the nature of that flame. See what it is. Perceive only that. Let the mind rest on it. Let the mind rest on the image of the Buddha; rest on the image of a flower or on the image of a candle. Just let it rest. When something comes to interrupt you, you simply toss it away, cut it out, move it, and come back to rest. Come back to that.

You can also watch your breath. One way to do that is to take very uniform relaxing breaths, such as four beats in, the hold one, then four beats out. Like that. A real relaxed kind of breathing, and just let your mind rest on the rhythm and the feel of your own breath. For a person whose mind is too active and too angry, it’s very restful, very peaceful, and lovely to do that. It’s completely different from watching TV, which actually gets your mind stirred up. I know when I watch the news, I get stirred up. I’ll tell you that. I start talking back to the TV. “Hey!” I get really stirred up. Then I go look at my candle.

It’s that single-pointed concentration, that right concentration. It’s wholesome concentration. Your mind is not filled with scattered B.S. We review all the stuff that happened to us, and ruminate on it. We fight battles that we had last week. Two weeks later I thought of a smart come back in the middle of my meditation. You know? So you fight that by using single-pointed concentration and even if you do that, just laugh at yourself and come back. Always drop it, come back. Drop it. Come back. Pretty soon you’ll be able to do it for longer and longer.

Once you learn to apply single-pointed concentration on a candle or an image, the mind then has more control. You have more muscle. And really the mind is almost like a muscle. You have to build it. It’s flabby. In the same way that you work out to keep your body strong, it’s the same with your mind. Your mind has to be kept in shape. It isn’t just there, and you just deal with it however it is, because in that case your mind tends to act like a monkey. It’s all over you. It rides you rather than you riding it. Its like the master is not riding the donkey, the donkey is riding the master. And that’s what happens when the mind is too agitated and too wild and too out of control.

Single-pointed concentration that kind of meditation is beautiful. Lord Buddha, who was born a prince, he was a noble being but still he was a prince – had a life that said that ran the gamut of the very best most sensual almost hedonistic life to asceticism. And Lord Buddha said that from his whole life what he really loved, his favorite practice was just the gentle watching of his breath. You might want to try it yourself. It’s a beautiful, healing practice. If you’re sick or depressed or manic then you may not be able to do it without some sort of treatment or medication but it behooves us to try. To calm the mind, to center the mind, to develop single-pointed concentration to the degree that eventually when you die and pass into the bardo, you actually meditate in the bardo without any distraction. And that’s the fundamental, underlying truth of the bardo. The bardo is as busy as our lives are or more so with loud noise, bright lights, and stuff you are not used to. And stuff you will interpret according to your mind. You will see your own mind in the bardo. Doesn’t that scare you a little bit? It should. Rather than that, you learn the single-pointed concentration.

Eventually you can learn Phowa, but the single-pointed concentration if one can do that at the time of death and not let the experiences of death take you this way and that way, if you are already so strong in your concentration that you can meditate like that to the moment of your death or to the moment of losing consciousness, the bardo will be so easy for you. Comparatively speaking, very easy.

Right Mindfulness

November 4, 2016 by Jetsunma Ahkon Lhamo

An excerpt from a teaching called the Eightfold Path by Jetsunma Ahkon Lhamo

Right mindfulness has to do with cognition. Everybody perceives. We all have perception. If you took any two people and asked them what their perception of a certain situation was, or even to describe a certain situation, it would be radically different. And it’s not that they remember differently, it’s that they saw differently. That’s the interesting thing. The cognitive process begins with the impact of phenomena and how it meets our habitual tendencies. It’s that meeting which is our perception. If we were able to perceive something, such as a person, without moving forward in cognition and having opinions, and concepts and ideas about that person, life would be beautiful. If we could just meet each other metaphysically naked and accept one another and let it go at that without hatred, greed or ignorance. Oh mani pedma hung. What a wonderful world that would be.

But that’s not our habit. Our habit is that when we see a person, we decide, “I don’t like what he’s wearing. That’s not my color. I don’t like that haircut. I don’t like him. I don’t like the way you wear your robes.” You know? We have all these opinions. And of course we keep them to ourselves and smile but it’s those opinions rattling around in our brains that are causing us so much trouble. We never stay with a mere impression and leave it wholesome. It never happens unless we are practicing right mindfulness. It takes a supreme effort to practice like that. We conceptualize. We write our own inner script for instance. We have an original perception and we react toward it. Reaction is the name of the game of the five senses. Whatever that reaction is we build a story about it. And then you have a whole house of conceptualization wrapped around that person. And it has nothing to do with them. But you projected your whole brain onto them.

What we do is we interpret according to our own thoughts and experiences. And here’s where the conundrum is. If we haven’t practiced proper view for instance or engaged in proper effort, then when we come down to mindfulness, its going to be really hard to unscramble things, and what we are going to have left is our usual habit. And that is conceptual proliferation. Two people can have exactly the same experience and react 180 degrees different. And it’s all because of our previous habits, our previous judgments. Judgments don’t go away. They pile on top of each other. And pretty soon, you have a formula, and once you have a formula, it’s over. So, the mind then posits concepts. Joins concepts into constructs and weaves those constructs into complex interpretive schemes. Its what we do. We can get all turned around and wrapped up in our little mental conflagrations, and somebody can come up and say, “Well, I saw it this way, boom, boom, boom.” And suddenly your whole game is down. What do you do now? Another person has a completely different view about it. But you’re still circling around the path.

That’s how sentient beings do. And on the path the job is to bust that game. Really bust that game. Very difficult to do but its possible. And does it take a short time? Can you do it in a weekend? No! It will take the rest of your life and then some more lives, if you don’t go to Vajrayana, and then achieve liberation in the bardo. If not, you have to practice the Eightfold Path for lifetime after lifetime after lifetime. That’s how long it takes. Nobody is being mean to you. That’s how long it takes.

We make up all these complex constructions. Most of it happens only half consciously and for some people it is completely unconscious, but for some of us, its only semi conscious. I’ve come to understand that sometimes a person acts oblivious. They act like they do not know the effect that they’re having on another person, and you corner them. You break it down with them. You find out that they actually know. But they don’t want to deal with it.

You know on some level. It can be a very subtle level, and maybe somebody like a friend or a therapist has to help you bring it out or point it out for you, because it may be so subtle that you didn’t catch it. It’s not that you don’t see it, it’s that you don’t catch it. That’s why it helps to work with your Vajra brothers and sisters and be willing to receive their thoughts about you. For instance, the ordained practice sojong, and sojong is wonderful because you really open up in front of the other ordained and you become metaphorically naked in front of your brothers and sisters.

Sometimes it helps when someone points it out, but really if you sat down and honestly little by little practiced self-honesty and looked at yourself, you could get a long way ahead. Be willing to love yourself through seeing how naughty you can be. What an absolute jerk you can be from time to time. “Oh God, I can’t stand that I did that!” But you have to see it. It helps.

So, when we practice right mindfulness, we become aware of the conceptualization part because in order to practice right mindfulness, you have to study your own reaction. Play this game with a friend. Have somebody brought over that you’ve never met before. Bring them into the room when everybody’s eyes are closed, and then open your eyes and look at the person. And watch what your mind does. Don’t obsess about the person. Watch what your mind does. Your mind is going to run all over that person from the shoelaces to the hair barrettes. You’re going to notice how they dress, how they smell, how they look, what their expression is. And all of these things are going to form into a pattern for you that means something for you, and probably is your projection on that person that has nothing to do with that person. It’s really interesting. I think one of the most fascinating parts of the path is when you really get to know your own perception and you can see how it works, and then you can move on. You can forgive yourself for it, and move on.

What we are trying to do is practice mindfulness, which is a clear perception. A perception, which is free of all these constructs. A perception that’s more naked. Where you just behold a person. If you could manage not to engage in all that impression stuff, and construct stuff and story making and all of that, you could actually see that person’s true face. You could actually behold their capacity, their Buddha nature. Nothing would stop you from loving them. What’s not to love in the primordial wisdom nature? The fact that we don’t have that kind of love is because we are stuck in wrong mindfulness. We are literally wrong-headed because we let our minds run away with these concepts and ideas, even to the degree that we say, “This person’s really got it in for me.” Even your own child, you think, “God, this is a plot. This kid is plotting to drive me nuts.” What parent hasn’t thought that? Of course we all have, but that’s crazy thinking. That’s your human projection. So, when you catch yourself with that, back up. Ask yourself, “What do we have here? We have a child. A child that does what children do.” Or if it’s an adult human, “What do you really here? Well, you have a human being with all that amazing potential and that capacity to be Buddha.” Wow! What if you could look at everyone and perceive that? What a joyful state to be in.

If we give rise to right mindfulness, we become aware of our process of conceptualization and the way that we can construct it into scenarios and stories and use that as the foundation for mindfulness. Just as I’ve been saying. You use it to examine every reaction that you have. You look at it from a distance. You say, “Oh, that’s me having that reaction again. Oh. Interesting. Where does that come from? Wonder about that?” The very act of stepping back from an instant reaction gives you something that’s called spaciousness in the mind. The very act of just stepping back.

Most creatures have no space in their mind at all. I don’t mean literal space. I mean metaphorically there’s no relaxation. Everything is automatic reaction. Take for instance, a snake. A snake is like a reaction machine. If you stick a rat in front of it, it’s going to act predictably. And if a snake in the wild is frightened, it’s going to act predictably. Species wide, you can predict how a snake is going to act. There’s no space in that’s animal’s mind. It doesn’t even have enough space in its mind to say, “I’m hungry. I’m going to catch me a rat.” It doesn’t do that. It just goes. It goes and does what it does as a response to feelings. And the response is bam, bam bam! It’s like a nerve firing. Almost plant like in the sense that a plant will react to stimulus. Too much sun, it will go down. Too much cold, it will go down, but it is an automatic thing, like a Venus Flytrap. Did you ever see one of those when you were a kid? Do you think the Venus Fly Trap says, “I’m hungry. I want a fly!” It doesn’t. It doesn’t even have that capacity. If anything touches it, it could be a toothpick, and it will grab it. So, that’s having no space in the mind. Plants don’t have any mind, but a snake is a being that has a brain but has no space. When you are able to practice being able to step back and say, “Oh. Look at that reaction. Wow. Well, that’s a whole load of horseshit I had connected to that. My goodness. Well let’s back that up and unpack it, shall we? “ When you start thinking like that, you start to develop some spaciousness in your mind, and you have a little bit of time between perception and reaction. That’s when you start to practice! That’s it! Once you have that going, and not every practitioner does, that’s when you’ve got it. Stepping back from reaction is a real milestone in practice, and it comes by right mindfulness. By perceiving, and catching your perception. What’s your perception? What’s the trigger? What’s going on here? What do you perceive? What’s the story that you are living? Step back and see what’s really happening.

Right Action

November 3, 2016 by Jetsunma Ahkon Lhamo

An excerpt from a teaching called the Eightfold Path by Jetsunma Ahkon Lhamo

Right action involves your physical body as a vehicle of expression, and it refers to deeds that we do with our body – our physical conduct. The Buddha taught that unwholesome actions lead to an unstable, unwholesome, and unhealthy state of mind. The principal is explained in terms of abstinence.

Right action means to abstain from harming sentient beings and especially to abstain from taking life, including one’s own – suicide, and doing harm intentionally or delinquently with your body to others. In other words, if you hit somebody or cause harm, if you get so angry at somebody that you punch them in the face, that’s not going to bring happiness, and definitely harms sentient beings. If we harm other beings or bring about their death by hitting them or smashing them with something, then we have brought about a cause that will result in our own death in the future. We have harmed our own life as well, as you have harmed someone that you professed to uphold on the previous steps on the Eightfold Path. You must never do that.

When we engage in the Eightfold Path, we don’t allow anything to be killed in our presence. If we can stop people from killing bugs, and never kill bugs ourselves, that’s the right way to go, because all of them are sentient beings, and they are all equal to us in their nature. We do not kill dogs. We do not kill cats. We do not kill people. We do not kill animals.

Regarding the consumption of meat, the way the Buddha taught it, is if somebody is going to kill an animal for you to eat, don’t do it. If the animal is already dead, as you would find meat in a supermarket, then that is acceptable to eat it because it is already dead. It is not going to come back because you didn’t eat it. But if you can prevent the death by not accepting anything that has been killed for you, never getting involved in slaughter, then that is the basis of it. Slaughtering animals in a slaughterhouse, or raising animals for slaughter for butchering would be wrong livelihood. Wrong action and wrong livelihood merge together and sometimes it’s hard to tell whether you are talking about one or the other. The point is it doesn’t matter. It’s the whole picture like a lotus.

You abstain from harming sentient beings, and especially from taking life. You abstain from taking what is not given to you, which includes stealing, robbery, fraud, deceitfulness, and dishonesty. Regarding what is not yours to give, rather than to steal it, you should practice the rest of the Eightfold Path, and purify yourself of the desire. Work with the desire, work with the phenomena, work with the root of it, and the way of it, and the result of it. Having done those things, there should be no desire to take from someone else or to have what somebody else has.

Here is an example of one way to cultivate that. Lets say you are practicing the path, and your friend gets a new car, and it’s just the kind of car you wanted. You just wished you could have had it. And you regret that it wasn’t you. You just think, “Boy, I wish I could have that car.” Now, you’re not going to steal the car probably if you are practicing the path, at least I hope not, but you have to examine the basis of not being happy for your friend, and wanting the car to be yours. That very idea of desire is the problem there.

Never take what is not given to you. Never steal. Never rob. Never commit fraud. All of this will bring great suffering. It basically destroys one’s mind. If one engages in deceitfulness and fraud, the mind becomes sick. You can’t think straight anymore. And it actually results in mental illness. There is so much confusion. You know how it is when you start telling lies. You have to keep on top of it, because pretty soon you’ll be telling different stories to everybody and you forget what you lied about. Have you ever seen kids do that or you?

Yeah, you should respect the belongings of others, and be happy for them in the sense that, “Oh my friend got a car. I’m so happy for her. I can see her joy. I rejoice in her joy.” Even if at first you have to say, “I rejoice in her joy” through gritted teeth. Keep doing it enough, and go deeper each time, eventually you will be joyful about the happiness of others. It really works.

Right action also has to do with abstaining from sexual misconduct. Positively formulated, Right action means to act kindly and compassionately, to be honest, to respect the belongings of others, and to keep sexual relationships harmless to others. It doesn’t mean you can’t do it.

Regarding sexuality it depends on your level of ordination. For a monk or a nun, any sexual activity is improper sexual activity because they have taken vows of celibacy. For householders it’s different. But still in all, one should never try to get with another person’s spouse, or to get with someone who is an improper age, or to get with somebody who would be harmed by getting with you in some way. Lets say there is a person that doesn’t have proper mental capacity and they don’t know better, and yet you get with them and it really harms them. That would be absolutely wrong action. So, sexual relationships should be wholesome, healthy, and not harmful. You should never harm another with that. You will suffer.

Right Intention

November 2, 2016 by Jetsunma Ahkon Lhamo

An excerpt from a teaching called The Eight-Fold Path by Jetsunma Ahkon Lhamo

All of us have intention, and intention refers to mental energy. We have intention now, but we are not really conscious of our intention. We don’t think of it that way other than when we say, “I intend to go to the movies tonight. I intend to wear my new dress tomorrow. I intend to eat broccoli for dinner.” We have that kind of understanding. But what we don’t understand is that intention goes with mind power. They are the same. And mind power when it is expressed, has intention. Whether we like it or not, if we have mind, we have intention. So, the mental energy that controls our actions is our intention, and that intention. Maybe we have a nihilist point of view. We don’t really think that life is cause and effect. We don’t have any understanding of that. “Wherever life takes me; I’m going to go there.” That’s kind of neutral. And of course, with that kind of neutrality, life will take you anywhere it wants to. You have no control. You are like a doughnut on the ocean. You are going to take on water and sink.

Right intention is about formulating an appropriate intention, and it has to do with ethics. Ethics in the Buddha dharma are absolutely foundational. Once we get into the higher practices, we neglect, I think too much, to talk about it. Right intention is absolutely important to cultivate. Otherwise the mind is simply wild. It wants what it wants. It just does what it does. There is nothing to think about. If we have bad intention, of course that gives rise to great suffering. Like if we wish to be higher than everybody else, or we wish to be more powerful than everybody else, or we wish to be richer than everybody else. That’s kind of a negative intention. It is okay to have wealth, it is okay if you have some power, and it is okay if you’re pretty, but to have that wish to be prettier or more powerful or wealthier than everybody else, that’s not good intention. And that will cause you to suffer because someone’s always going to be prettier than you. Someone’s always going to be richer than you. Someone’s always going to be smarter. And so you’ll suffer. It brings about suffering. Negative intention should not be tolerated. Not only does it bring about suffering for oneself, but also it brings about suffering for sentient beings because if we have poor ethics or if we have bad intention, we tend to harm others, as well as ourselves.

So we are supposed to train ourselves with good intention, for instance, the intention of renunciation. To have the intention of renunciation again is so important and foundational on the path. What are we renouncing? Well, you could go and renounce things piece by piece, and get absolutely nowhere. “I renounce bottle tops. I renounce red drinks.” And then get totally neurotic about it, “But I want it.” That obviously is not the right approach. The intention of renunciation actually refers to resistance to the pull of desire and attachment. You begin to practice that resistance. I promise you that when you just start to practice it, you won’t be good at it, if you have no experience with it. It takes time. You have to examine desire.

Now, you understand that desire is all-pervasive. I’m not talking about what happens in people’s bedrooms. I’m talking about all-pervasive desire. Desire for everything that we want. And we want a lot. We want good days, we want good experiences, we want good friends, and we want good times. None of which are bad, but if you’re addicted and attached to them, then you will suffer. And again the Eight-Fold Path is about liberating from suffering. So, it is the renunciation to the pull of desire and the poison of attachment.

Right intention also is the intention of good will. Meaning resistance to the feelings of anger and aversion. We all have that. It starts in the morning. “God, who made this coffee? It tastes awful.” “I’m having a really terrible hair day. I’m averse to my hair.” We have this aversion, and then we just don’t like things. Don’t like people. Don’t care. Just don’t give the big hoop. I would call that wrong intention. If someone were to approach you and say to you, “I think it would be healthy for you to practice more compassion.” Of course, our natural thing is to react with “Shut up!” and to react with anger. But that is the exact instinct we need to fight. That is the exact thing we need to fight. Now, if somebody comes up to you even if they are somebody you may feel doesn’t have that much compassion, and they give you the piece of advice, “I think you should have more compassion.” You cultivate patience and right intention. You think, “Well, it is good that person is talking about compassion, even if it is a left-handed gift. Still there is something there, and you can have some good intention, good attitude about it.

Basically you develop good will towards all sentient beings. You don’t think that animals should be killed or harmed. You don’t think that dogs should be put to death. You don’t think that people should be at war. You don’t think that suffering should occur. You don’t think that poverty should exist. These are right intentions. These are right thoughts. Right thoughts that can be cultivated even on a very personal level while the path you’re traveling is still very personal. You think like that.

You start to pacify anger and rage. So many of us have so much rage stored up. Some of it is from childhood. Some of it is from the stress of everyday living. Were we really meant to go 60 million miles everyday? You know that kind of stress. We hold rage inside. And so part of the Eight-Fold Path is to begin not to suppress the rage, but to contemplate it, be aware of it, and look through it. Suppression equals neuroses. We are looking for you to be awake to perceive more correctly what the nature of attraction and repulsion actually is, how they are not conducive to happiness and are the antithesis of the path.

The last part of right intention is the intention of harmlessness, meaning not to think or act cruelly, violently, or aggressively, and to develop compassion. We forget that. Again a foundational truth on the path, and we forget it. We walk around with our malas and our robes, and we think, “I’m so cool. I’m a Tibetan Buddhist.” Well, you are not Tibetan. And if you act like that, you’re not much of a Buddhist either. So, forget it. And of course cruelty, if we have any cruelty in our mind, it may be a reflection of past habit or past incidences. We have the power to examine that cruelty, to see its root, to see its fruit, to push it away, to see through it in other words, into the true nature of the Eight-Fold Path and of the Buddha dharma. We have that power. We shouldn’t think, “Oh, I’ve got this rage, and I’m stuck with it. It’s just there.” We have the power to change that by practicing this right intention.

We give up the thoughts of violence, of aggressiveness, and we begin to develop compassion. And again what is it based on? It’s based on the Four Noble Truths. The compassion comes from the realization that all sentient beings are suffering. That suffering is all-pervasive, and that it is not necessary because there is an Eight-Fold Path. That is our way to contemplate and to bring ourselves up to snuff with right intention.

Right View – The Essential Nectar Drop

November 1, 2016 by Jetsunma Ahkon Lhamo

An excerpt from a teaching called The Eight-Fold Path by Jetsunma Ahkon Lhamo

Right view should be understood as the underpinning, the beginning and the ending, and everything in between on the path. It is in some ways the essence, the essential nectar drop of the path. In right view through meditation, through contemplation, and through receiving teachings, we come to understand the nature of samsara. We meditate on samsara and understand its flaws, its faults, and how it is so confusing to all of us. By understanding the nature of samsara, we know what to avoid and what to pick up. But without contemplating on and understanding the nature of samsara by remaining constantly in a reactive stage, there will be no accomplishment. We grasp what is impermanent, what is imperfect. We begin to contemplate and study the empty nature of phenomena. That phenomena is what it seems to be, yet even now we know from the scientific world that it isn’t what it seems to be. It seems to be this way, but we know that it isn’t. We know that for instance that on the surface, the nature of glass, the nature of wood, the nature of material, all of it is basically molecules with a bunch of space in them. And so while they appear solid, its all really energy, electromagnetic energy that binds molecules together. It is not the way it appears to be. We have the habit of seeing what we see. But when one is awake, phenomena is basically empty of self-nature. And subtle energies, the very display that is samsara is understood in its nature.

In order to attain right view, you don’t have to be smart. Even though the people that are teaching it often use these wonderful big words, “all pervasive this,” and “foundational whatever.” And you think, “Wow, this sounds like you have to have a PhD to understand this.” And it’s not true. Correct view or right view isn’t about smart. It’s about wisdom. It’s about experience through contemplation and meditation. Even if you don’t have the big words, you can have a direct experience through contemplation. It begins with the insight that is brought to bear by having meditated on the Four Noble Truths in that we understand that all sentient beings are suffering. We begin to realize that desire is the problem, to understand the nature of reaction and attachment, and to understand the nature of phenomena and the truth that the Buddhas and the bodhisattvas prevail and are indeed omniscient and powerful. They have brought us the path and they remain. In other words it is the awareness and belief in the Three Precious Jewels – Buddha, Dharma and Sangha.

We all have view. We have view right now. We are viewing each other. I’m viewing this lady’s pretty necklace, and I’m viewing my daughter, and I’m viewing you. We have it. Whatever we think in our mind, when we are viewing, this is our view.

To practice Right View, one trains the view. One trains so that when you look at somebody you don’t say, “I like him or I don’t like him.” You don’t react with attachment or repulsion. Right View means that you train yourself to see differently what is. For instance, say I am Caucasian and you are a black man. I look at you. If I say to myself, “Oh, I’m Caucasian, and he’s a black man.” That’s my view. That’s what I’m seeing. And in the Buddha dharma, it is not correct view. Not correct at all. Because we are to understand that within each of us, we are equal and we have the Buddha nature and that view is so completely superficial. If we look at someone else from another culture or family or another planet, and see only the differences, right view would be to correct that. It would be to see the sameness, to wake up to the fact that all sentient beings are inherently equal and that we share the same nature. I may be one color and you may be another but we share the same nature, and there is no color on that nature. So, this is where you begin. You see how this is a foundation where you become mindful and thoughtful? It’s not a generation stage practice where you are actually doing a puja, but it’s where you contemplate the fundamental meaning of the path. Having trained oneself in Right View, its so much easier later on when you begin to approach the bodhisattva vow and the compassion that we learn in Mahayana Buddhism, because with Right View as the foundation, we are half way there. We can have compassion for others. We can uphold others as the same as ourselves. And we can do for others what is kind and good to do. If we understand Right View properly and we have done the preliminary contemplations, then in Vajrayana it is much easier to have proper view with Vajrayana meaning.

In Vajrayana meaning we should see every female as the goddess, and every male as a god. We see each being in their truer nature. And we respect the women as being dakinis. We respect the men as being dakas. We respect, that is the View in Vajrayana. And nobody’s higher than anybody else except in the practice of Guru Yoga where we actually use the Guru as a focus to understand our own nature. But we’re not there yet. We’re still on Right View.

So it behooves us to contemplate the meaning of this, and how to approach viewing others, viewing your life, viewing your potential, and viewing the world at large. This is mind training. This is where you train your mind. If you don’t train your mind here, when you get to the higher levels of practice, you are too wobbly and unstable. You can practice real well for a while, but then you are gone. You must have this underlying stability, this understanding in order to really practice the path well and keep flourishing on it.

The Origin of Suffering

October 30, 2016 by Jetsunma Ahkon Lhamo

An excerpt from a teaching called Eight-fold Path by Jetsunma Ahkon Lhamo

I have known of cases, it is very rare, and beautiful to behold of people who have gone through terrible terrible suffering and have used that as a way to become strong. In fact there are entire cultures of people who through tremendous need to survive and tremendous suffering, have found some way to become strong through that suffering rather than to let that suffering take them down. But that’s very rare. Most people react to suffering as though something outside had occurred to them, and they were merely standing there. They don’t understand the relationship of cause and effect, and how karma prevails, and always is exacting. If you give rise to any cause, that very effect will occur. We don’t realize that, and so we react in an odd way.

What causes our reaction is our deep attachment and desire for things to be as we wish. For instance, if we have to live on beans and rice all week because we don’t have enough money for steak and potatoes, we might think, “Oh this is terrible suffering. This is just so terrible. But then another person might say, “I really dig beans and rice. Take the Beano and you’ll be fine. What’s the problem?” I’m being funny now, but you get what I’m saying. It’s really your reaction. One person can have some catastrophe happen to them, and they will use that almost as a guru to pull themselves up by the bootstraps and get stronger. But most of us don’t. We react because we don’t have our heart’s desire. So, if we lose a relationship that is very dear to us, a death happens or loss of friendship or loss of love, when we really look from a practical sense at what changes in our lives as a result of the loss of this person, most of it is manageable usually.

What’s really terrible is our own pain. Our own pain is caused by our attachment to that person and our desire to be with that person. Attachment to a person or a desire to be with a person is not necessarily a bad or unethical thing, but understood within the context of the Buddha dharma, we must understand that too much attachment and not enough unconditional positive regard for all sentient beings – placing all of our hopes and desires on one person or maybe a small family – means that our suffering will be very great at the time of losing that relationship. We know that whatever comes together must also separate. Whether it is in life or in death, nothing remains and everything is impermanent.

It is our reaction that causes us to suffer. One person can lose a job or a position and totally flip out, and ruin the rest of his life simply by the thoughts and activities that he takes while he is not stable or in good shape. Then another person can take a challenge like that, examine himself, and say, “What’s going on here? Maybe I should change this or that about myself?” There are many ways to react, and what the Buddha has taught is that the suffering is caused by desire and attachment and the purpose of practicing the Buddha dharma is to pacify and lessen that desire and attachment. Another way to put it is to see through its narcotic effect. We want what we want. It stimulates us and makes us happy. Then we want more. But if we really examine the desire and attachment, we’ll find out that most of what we cling to is relatively unimportant and in the end, will bring us suffering because we are too attached to it. So, the Buddha taught that the origin of suffering is attachment and desire.

Back to Basics

October 29, 2016 by Jetsunma Ahkon Lhamo

An excerpt from a teaching called the Eight-fold Path by Jetsunma Ahkon Lhamo

Recently it has come to me very strongly that if we lose sight or connection with the very foundations of the path of Buddha dharma, we tend to lose our way eventually. There are well-documented, well-preserved teachings that Lord Buddha gave that are very pristine and very concise. They concern the first turning of the wheel of Dharma. This is what Lord Buddha taught during the time of his life. As the Dharma grew and spread, there were other developments within the Dharma. So, there are basically three levels of the Buddha dharma. One is called the Theravadan point of view, the original teachings that Lord Buddha himself taught. There is the Mahayana point of view, the accomplishment of the original teachings, and the addition of the idea of wisdom and compassion – primarily the idea of the Bodhisattva vow – this was all taught by highly realized Buddhas and Bodhisattvas. Then there is Vajrayana, which is what we actually practice, and which has a lot of ritual to it. A lot depends on the inner rather than the outer display. It is powerful yet subtle. There is technology that goes with it, and as one accomplishes the technology, one begins to advance and change and move ever closer toward awakening.

We should never consider the first level of Buddhism to be somehow lesser. Instead we should think of the first level of Buddhism as the absolutely necessary foundation. If you don’t accomplish and don’t understand what Buddha originally taught, then there is no real understanding later on. I would consider it to be something like building a house. If you are building a house you don’t want to build it on a sandy beach where it slopes down to the sea and the waves are big. You want to build it on a very firm foundation. You want to pour your concrete slab, and make it really secure. When you are practicing the path of the Buddha dharma, it is very good to understand these primary teachings. To understand their meaning to the degree that as you move further on the path, you can always reflect back on the original teachings to give you context, strength, and inspiration. It is necessary to understand exactly what did the Buddha taught.

When we talk about the Buddha teaching, we say, “turning the wheel, an expression meaning, “give the dharma.” The symbol of dharma is a ship’s steering wheel, an eight-spoke wheel, and it symbolizes the eight-fold path. “Turning the wheel” is a symbolic way of saying, “teaching the eight-fold path.”

When the Buddha first turned the wheel, he taught the four noble truths. The Buddha himself was considered peerless, fully awakened, fully developed. Having experienced all of the content of samsara and nirvana, through his realization, and in his awakened state he was able to take all that he saw, and make it concise, something very understandable. Small in words, but big in meaning. This is what the Buddha taught. You can’t argue with it.

He first taught that in samsara or in life, suffering is all-pervasive, meaning that life is suffering. We don’t like to think of it that way. We prefer to think that we’re happy, and we try to coax ourselves into a happy mood. Still if we look around we see that there is suffering wherever we look. The human suffering is old age, sickness, and death. I’ve experienced two out of three, and I know I’ve done the other one but it is hard to remember. We all know that this is true. Human beings suffer from old age, sickness, and death. You can try to think positively about it, but we all know that when it gets down to it, when you’re sick, you feel rotten, and if you are critically ill, it is so much worse. It’s horrible to have your own body betray you. If you get to the point where you are experiencing old age, we can look at Madonna, and we can look at all the different wonderful people who have kept in shape and all, and we think, “Oh, its not so bad.” Its bad! Getting old is bad. For those of you who don’t believe and are too young to know, it’s bad. And that is the suffering of the human realm.

Each different realm has its own form of suffering. For instance, animals suffer from fear and stupidity. An elephant is much stronger than its trainer, and much stronger than the means usually used to contain them, but they don’t know that. Elephants are very smart in their own way, but in that particular way, they are not so smart. In India you see bullocks pulling carts and what not, and their whole life is just toil and work. They experience the whip if they don’t do it. That stupidity keeps them there. I mean, they could basically turn around and knock the driver senseless if they so chose. They are powerful animals but they don’t know that. And so that’s the suffering of the animal kingdom. That and fear since in the animal kingdom you are either prey or predator. And even predator can be prey sometimes. So fear is rampant.

The Buddha taught that everywhere you look, suffering is all-pervasive. That no matter what a person’s life looks like, there is suffering. And then he taught the cause of suffering is attachment or desire.

When we come from a materialistic society and an ordinary world, we think to ourselves, “How can that be? Suffering is when you don’t have enough money. Suffering is when you get hit by a car. Suffering is when your beloved child grows up and does drugs or something.” We can name all of these sufferings that happen to us, and so it is hard for us to understand how desire or attachment can actually be the cause of suffering. The way it is explained is that while things do happen and they are caused by our karma, the cause and effect relationships that we have given rise to in the past, and we see our karma ripening as events that seem to happen to us. What really makes us suffer is our reaction.

Right Speech

June 14, 2016 by Jetsunma Ahkon Lhamo

An excerpt from a teaching called The Eightfold Path by Jetsunma Ahkon Lhamo

Right speech is the first principal of ethical conduct on the Eightfold Path. And on the Eightfold Path is really based on ethical conduct. It’s one of the things that I like best about Buddhism. It isn’t based on a pie-in-the-sky idea. You have to work it. People who are recovering alcoholics will recognize that saying about the 12-step program, “It works if you work it.” Right? And the Eightfold Path is exactly like that. If you don’t work it, you’re going to go back to the narcotic of samsara. But if you do work it, you have strength and bones that you never had before. There is a similarity. I’ve often drawn that connection between the Buddha dharma and the way that self-honesty is required, and the 12-step program, especially in that we are all addicts. We are addicted to our emotions. We are addicted to our delusions. We are addicted to our visions. We are addicted to our dreams. We are all addicts. And we are just so drunk with the narcotic of samsara that it is hard to pay attention, and see what is the root of all this. We are trying to become awake so that we can see all of that, and right speech is one of the guidelines to the moral discipline of ethics.

We don’t realize that you have to do right to be right. That is certainly true on the path of Buddha dharma. The importance of speech in the Buddha dharma is central and obvious. For one thing you can cause harm with speech, and you should never do that. Right speech would be speaking well, speaking nobly, speaking higher, and not speaking against anyone or speaking harshly or cruelly, or gossiping.

Gossiping is a terrible ethical non-virtue or perversion of Buddhist ethics. And I must say it’s rampant in most religious communities and in ours too. It’s rampant. It’s not what the Buddha taught and it should not be that way. We should uphold one another with speech, rather than to tear one another down. Words can break or save lives. Think about that. Words can make enemies or friends. Start war or create peace. All by words. And you can review history to see that that’s true.

To keep away from false speech, one especially should never tell deliberate lies or speak deceitfully. Some people are storytellers, and tend to be expansive in their speech. I’ve been known to do that myself. When you tell a story, you expand it a little bit. You polish it up. Make it a little more interesting. Throw in a few hand gestures. That’s not deceitful necessarily unless you are making yourself higher. Then that would be deceitful. If you said, “I had this experience in meditation. It was so big. You’ve never had anything like it.” (And therefore, I’m big) That would be wrong speech. That would be unethical. What we really want to do is avoid telling different lies, especially those that bring us power, acknowledgement, or approval, because then we know that we are lying to someone, which is unethical, in order to bring ourselves up above them which is not right either. It ruins our right intention.

That would be called false speech and it is to be avoided. We must also abstain from slanderous speech, and should not use words maliciously against others. That’s gossip. We do it all the time. We should be very very careful with that, because one thing I’ve noticed about gossip and slander is that it comes right back to you, even in this very life. But if we develop the habit of slanderous speech, lifetime after lifetime, what happiness can come from that? We will be born into lifetimes where no matter what we do people will not think well of us. We will be causing more suffering to others and ourselves. To use words maliciously against others undermines the whole basis of the path, which is this right intention and this right view, and this consideration of the truth of the Four Noble Truths.

When we consider all of this together, we understand that malicious speech is not just a no no. It’s a killer. We should abstain from harsh words that offend or hurt others. We can see what the ethics of that would be. Like if I were to say to you, “Gee, you look kind of ugly today.” What is the point of that? Why would I need to do that? Even if it were true, why would I do that? Well, first of all I have shown that I have not accomplished right view. Right there I have shown you my buttocks. So, obviously this is not the right way to go.

We want to cultivate right intention, so we want to keep away from unethical speech that hurts or offends others. We want to abstain from idle chatter that lacks purpose or depth. Positively phrased, it means tell the truth, speak friendly, warmly and gently, and talk when you’ve got something to say. Brilliant! Only a Buddha could have thought of this. Actually it was “talk only when necessary.” I had to have a little fun there.